Enough Is Enough
Take a minute to ask yourself, “am I enough?” Really, take a minute...
What did you think about? Did you ask follow up questions, like why, good enough for what, or for who? Did you think of all the ways you could improve, how you need to be better? This is an internalized message of negativity that plagues us. We think being enough is somehow equated to this unattainable goal of perfection or worse yet, that we are unlovable or unworthy of being enough. You are worthy.
Being enough gets trounced on from our tender ages right through adulthood. Whether it’s society, cultural norms, school, work, family, friends, significant others, or ourselves, the message is constantly delivered clearly, “you ain’t it.” But changing that starts with you. If you don’t believe “you’re the sunshine in the rain when it’s pouring”, who will? We don’t love on ourselves enough. Instead, we choose to compare ourselves to others, put immense pressure on our individuality, and look for reasons to confirm the lie, while ripping apart our self-esteem, bit by bit.
I read a quote the other day that said “we can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love” and I had that Supa Hot Fire reaction (google it). I let that marinate in my mind for a while. Why do we think hating ourselves is the way to go? We tend to look at the negative aspects of who we are without remembering that there is more good to us than bad. That’s a direct path to unhappiness. If we can’t be content with who we are, we’ll never be happy, we’ll never love ourselves. Yes, we all have flaws and we make mistakes, but we are beautifully imperfect. Striving to grow and make necessary positive changes is just on the continuum of you becoming more of who you already are.
Being enough doesn’t mean you are perfect or that you never need help. It just means you show up for life, daily, authentically. You don’t have to DO anything. You are enough and loving yourself for it gets easier and easier if you learn to practice. Love your authentic self. Period.
So again, ask yourself, “am I enough?” You dam straight! But if you’re struggling with that, then you should probably go to therapy.